ASK ELLA: Who's a Bad B*tch?

 "Bitch bad. Woman good. Lady better. They misunderstood." - Lupe Fiasco

Hi lady! 

Saw your ad for your event tonight and the title hit me in the face. Brought me back to Lupe's brilliant approach to the term "bad bitch" its connotations and effect on the female & male youngsters. Would love you hear your thoughts. 

-Ms. S. Santos

           To begin: I don't really fuck with Lupe like that. I don't know him personally, but I don't trust what he says... so I can't care for his opinion more than to ignore and respect that he has one. In my opinion (because I'm allowed to have one, too) he's one of the artists people like to call "conscious"as if the rest rhyme in their sleep. From my point of view, he's also one of the artists who seems to have more perspective in his music than he does in his waking life. Some of these artist tend to always have opinions on shit that doesn't concern them, and which they offer no solutions for. Quite frankly, I dislike all "conscious" rappers removed from everyday philanthropy because the masses take their word as gospel, forgetting that you should pay more attention to what people do than what they say --especially if what they say has an effect on record sales.  

Ask Ella: Should Women Be Submissive?

 

Question: 
Want to know your insight of being a submissive woman. When and why should a woman be submissive? I'm NOT a for good reasons tho. Talk to me Ella.

 - Miss Fierce & Fancy 

 Hola Miss :)

Happy to help. (You know I love these lol).

      I've been wondering about this "Submissive" thing myself. Getting straight to the point, the reason I wasn't (and kinda still don't want to be) is that this was a characteristic used to describe our White sisters, the same trait that made/makes many Black men choose women of another race over us? Not true? Well, it's the first thing that comes to my mind *shrugs* There are two things I never, EVER want to be: A white girl or a chump. Don't get so offended --I simply love myself that much. I'd never change something about myself that God decided. He gave me beauty wrapped in a difficult box & it's the best thing I've got now that I recognize what I'm made of. It's tough to get to me and through me. My favorite thing about being a Black woman is the inherent fear everyone has of me. I don't need to say anything. Especially if I'm the only Black woman in the conversation, I'm usually, automatically The Boss --even before my brothas. See, everyone is afraid of the Black man except one person - The Black Woman. Sorry to pitch in my pro-Black, *fist up* opinion but Eve was made for and of Adam. If you believe in the idea of a soul mate (click here to read "Does Everyone Get a Soul Mate?"), then the real question, how do you treat your "soul mate?" --No matter your age, race or taste, you give that person all of you.