ASK ELLA: Who's a Bad B*tch?

 "Bitch bad. Woman good. Lady better. They misunderstood." - Lupe Fiasco

Hi lady! 

Saw your ad for your event tonight and the title hit me in the face. Brought me back to Lupe's brilliant approach to the term "bad bitch" its connotations and effect on the female & male youngsters. Would love you hear your thoughts. 

-Ms. S. Santos

           To begin: I don't really fuck with Lupe like that. I don't know him personally, but I don't trust what he says... so I can't care for his opinion more than to ignore and respect that he has one. In my opinion (because I'm allowed to have one, too) he's one of the artists people like to call "conscious"as if the rest rhyme in their sleep. From my point of view, he's also one of the artists who seems to have more perspective in his music than he does in his waking life. Some of these artist tend to always have opinions on shit that doesn't concern them, and which they offer no solutions for. Quite frankly, I dislike all "conscious" rappers removed from everyday philanthropy because the masses take their word as gospel, forgetting that you should pay more attention to what people do than what they say --especially if what they say has an effect on record sales.  

ELLA performing in Brooklyn 8.8.13

If you've nothing else to do, I'm performing at Muchmore's in Brooklyn (Williamsburg) on Thursday, 8.8. Show starts at 8pm :) For my 40 minute set,  I've got special guest @EastBrookFamilia on deck. Should be one hell of a show. Rhythm and Poetry for ya ;) 

Hope to see you there! 

Ask ELLA: What's Your Flaw?

   

  According to someone, somewhere, something I'm doing right now is probably wrong and something about me is incorrect. A woman working. Twenty something and not married. Melanin infected. The nerve of me. My favorite thing about me is how great people hate that I am. It's you who thinks that I'm great, why get mad at me? Went with the family to Coldstone the other day and got shade from everyone behind the counter. Of all the places in the world, why is everyone at Coldstone mad at me? So I tipped them. They ain't sing to me, tho. G shit, I guess.

Ask ELLA: When Should You Quit?

        

   If I haven't made a complete fool of myself, I'm probably not done. I can't say that works for everyone, but you've got to decide which risks you're willing to take; You should also know how to follow up, should the consequences not be as you had hoped. 

Ask ELLA: How do you know it's right?

          

   

      Easy answer: If it's right, it can't be wrong, by definition. *shrugs*  Life is simpler than we think. Sometimes, you've just got to submit to the reality of what is, and compare that to what you think it's supposed to be. From there, you can judge the situation. The only way to make sure things are "right" is to allow them to be what they are - naturally - as well as to deal with them in the same way.